Woman gets invited to a hike by her friends, only to discover it was not what she was told. Everyone appears with utilities and then acts as if they had explained how it was going to be: 'They show up on bikes.'

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María Cetra • Writer
Jun 26, 2026 1:00 PM EDT

Sometimes you just have awful friends, ditch them!

We have this thing where we can't admit when one of our friends isn't the good kind. You have that friend who has shown over and over again that they treat you badly or don't care for you, and instead of ditching them, we make excuses. When somebody tells us how they have spoken badly about us behind our backs, we say they must have misunderstood, even though inside we know they did. We feel their awful treatment towards us and do nothing. We want to avoid the confrontation, thinking it will be worse than simply talking. We prefer to be uncomfortable and sad rather than break a friendship of many years, but the truth is that the friendship ended the moment they started being mean to you. We don't want to be the ones making the decision, but we weren't. It was our inconsiderate friend who decided to end the friendship by treating us poorly.

In this Reddit story, we are presented with an example of an awful friend –multiple in this case– that do not care for us or our wellbeing, and for whom we make excuses even though they do not deserve it at all. Instead of admitting that they have a separate group chat where they specified what to bring to the "hike", the user who wrote this story prefers to think that they simply forgot. Even if they did forget to mention the reality of the plan, they are bad friends for being inconsiderate and not thinking about you. Especially if they knew that this user wasn't big in hiking. Not being mindful of your friend makes YOU a bad friend.

We should stop with the excuses and start being honest. That friend –yes, that one that you are thinking about right now– is not good for you and is not a good person. Either talk to them and explain how you feel or ditch them, but DO NOT carry a friendship just because of nostalgia.  
 

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    Model image of a woman doing a hike.
    via Holly Mandarich

    Model image of a woman doing a hike. 

  • 02
    Genuinely need help understanding if I'm just a wuss who dragged everyone backwards today or if we're mad for the right reasons.
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    I'll change minor details here for discretion.
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    I've (31F) had a friend group (similar ages) saying we'd like to get together for a hike for some time. We've scheduled, rescheduled, planned and unplanned babysitter and dogsitters, and FINALLY managed it.
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    So I had been tossing out trail ideas. Something easy; single day. My 2 friends say, "We'd like to just hike the trail right by our place!" And they essentially tell me that its a straight shot, we'll have a buddy drop us off on the other side of the hill, and we'll hike over, and essentially right back down into their neighborhood. Six hours, start to finish.
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    So my boyfriend and I show up, backpacks, basic snacks, water bottles.
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    They show up on bikes.
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    My boyfriend and I are a little confused. We thought this was a hike? For leisure? No rush, just sort of a one foot in front of the other type thing.
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    They say its no rush, they may beat us, but we're all just going back to the neighborhood. Plus there are a bunch of scenic lookouts where they'll stop and we'll catch up.
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    Well, to no one's surprise, we get left behind pretty quickly. No cell service to be spoken of. We keep having to crowd off to one side for ATVs ripping down the path, but the longer we keep walking, one thing becomes clearer and clearer: this is not any kind of hiking trail. Its not built for this at all. Despite that being the original idea.
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    Eventually we stop to rest and wind up chatting with these guys who have pulled over on their ATVs. They ask us where we're headed, and when we tell them, it becomes immediately clear that we have MUCH further to go than originally intended. Like several miles to go yet.
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    These two were saints, because they gave us a lift. The further we rode, the more astonished we became that anyone had expected us to do this on foot. It took us at least 15 minutes more to get there by ATV. We got back to the trailhead and realized it wasn't exactly right into the neighborhood like we'd been told, so we just started walking.
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    Eventually they came by and picked us up. I'd say maybe 20 minutes or so after we'd hit the main road. We told them we were too tired to stay for dinner (the original plan) and we booked out and grabbed something on the way home.
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    Here's where I'm at. We're adults. I was clearly underprepared, and no one should have to be responsible for me.
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    On the other hand, this trip was VASTLY misrepresented to us, and had I known, I wouldve told these people we didn't own mountain bikes, and to count us out. This was not a hike. We have VASTLY different ideas of what constitutes a hike.
    via InTheLoudHouse
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    Ive been fielding calls about how "sorry everyone is" about "the way things went down" but honestly, I just said that I had made it home safe and I'd talk to everyone later.
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    My mom had been babysitting so we could go, and when she asked me, I told her all of the above, and then said, "I tried to hold it together, because I figured maybe I was just tired and crabby. But then we had dinner and I was still upset."
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    She genuinely asked me if these people were my friends. Im going to sleep on it, because it's fresh, but I feel like she's right. I felt like I was taking crazy pills today, because, d n, at least tell me I'd be better off just going home. I felt like the people who knew the area misrepresented the trip and then totally fed off and left us to figure out a way back. Additionally; I get very few days off with a babysitter, so to have
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    planned excessively for this to have it go down that way was additionally disappointing, although not anyone's fault; just an extra grievance, honestly.
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    Less_Duty7681 Yeah, agree with the others, these are not friends. Sorry. You weren't under prepared, they misrepresented the hike.
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    Realistic_Charge_342 I'm sorry. Those people are not your friends
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    Visual representation of a hike through the mountains.
    via Toomas Tartes

    Visual representation of a hike through the mountains. 

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